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It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that many people are having a hard time dating. In the African American community I see a lot of men and women especially complaining about the dating pool. I’m sure my counterparts in other communities will see similar complaints that may not make it onto my radar every day. So what does this mean for dating and marriage? Are we limiting the pool of those we are compatible with simply because many of us just simply have no desire to date outside of our own race?
First let’s explore the reasons many won’t consider crossing the race line when it comes to dating. In today’s environment racial issues are at a high so that could certainly be one reason people think of this as a taboo. Another reason could be unwritten cultural rules. For instance in many Indian or Asian cultures it may be an issue for people to outside of their race as they may want to preserve cultural traditions and belief systems. The same may hold true in other communities in the far east or Jewish communities where often times religion is at the heart of why families would want their loved ones to preserve their communities by only being with people like them. Do these belief systems hold people back from happiness or do they instead just help support the desire to keep cultures alive?
We all know there has been quite a stir about couples like Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, Rapper Eve and her husband Maximillion Cooper or Sabrina Williams and her husband Alexis Ohanian. And recently when Janet Jackson and her husband Wissam Al Mana split up there were a lot of I told you so type comments all over social media. Yet, we all know of couples like Matthew McConaughey and his wife Camila Alives or Wolfgang Puck and Gelila Assefa that have crossed the color lines and are as happy as any other couple. So why do some adamantly decide to color in between the lines that look like them never giving themselves other options? Is it simply preference or is it fear?
In my case I just think black men are super sexy. I can’t say if the right guy from another race crossed my path I wouldn’t give it a shot but I think I’m so busy looking at men of color that I’d probably miss the opportunity.
At the end of the day, it is really a personal choice when it comes to what type of person people prefer to be with. My only real thought on this is to think about why you are choosing a certain way to date and think on whether or not it’s too narrow for the wrong reasons or if it’s simply certain types of people are the only ones who rock your boat.